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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 02:23 PM
Lost my beloved shepherd Thursday. Haven't left the couch. His footprints are still in the snow along with the wheelcart tracks. Degenerative Myelopathy is a horrible disease, just awful. My wife and I gave him a lot of love and care, homecooked food, attended to all his ailments immediately over the years (atopic dermatitis, lyme, all of it). He had a lot of cards stacked against him but we were on top of his care at all times (we have no kids, so he was our kid) and that is probably why he went to such a relatively old age for his breed. Lot of love lot of baths lot of medication management. He only spent one day in all those years not at home (one overnight at animal hosp).

The grief feels intense , I keep reliving the last moments, even when I sleep and don't dream of him my sleep is still uneasy somehow like I'm aware of it in the background like I'm sort of awake still.

Didn't know what to do so figured maybe writing it out may help somehow? Or is it just a time thing, when is the pain not so intense. Loved the animal so much, hopefully they have a way of knowing that

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 02:54 PM
So sorry to hear, Rust, that such an absolute heart breaker. I feel for your loss. I have no doubt your shepherd knew how much he was loved.

We lost our dog a little of a year ago and it absolutely crushed us, he was such a part of the family. You will always miss him and the paws clacking across the floor, but I found that over time, those years of amazing, happy memories will overtake the immediate, lingering memory of the last moments. Like all heartache, it just takes time. Be well.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 03:27 PM
I feel your pain.My wife and I are dog lovers also our first one after we married was a lab he lived for 11 years when he couldn't walk any longer I put him in a rug put him in the back of my pick up and took him to the vet to be put to sleep.It was best before I carried him in I sat on the tailgate and talked to him and said good bye to him he licked my face I cried like a baby my wife could'nt go with me she was to upset so yer he knew you loved him no doubt.We went out not long after and got 2 dogs so go out an adopt one that's needs a loving home you will both be glad that you did.Life is better with animals good luck.
 

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 04:39 PM
Sorry for your loss. Dogs are man's best friends no doubt. Great companions and are very much family.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 05:36 PM
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those years of amazing, happy memories will overtake the immediate, lingering memory of the last moments.


Thank you

we have hours of videos and photos and memories with him. Those last moments were horrible for me but actually were peaceful for him he was not in pain

 

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I feel your pain.My wife and I are dog lovers also our first one after we married was a lab he lived for 11 years when he couldn't walk any longer I put him in a rug put him in the back of my pick up and took him to the vet to be put to sleep.It was best before I carried him in I sat on the tailgate and talked to him and said good bye to him he licked my face I cried like a baby my wife could'nt go with me she was to upset so yer he knew you loved him no doubt.We went out not long after and got 2 dogs so go out an adopt one that's needs a loving home you will both be glad that you did.Life is better with animals good luck.


THank you.

We took his last day off from work and a fire in the wood stove and sat with him the whole day until it was time.

 

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 05:51 PM
Dear Rusty and Mrs Rusty:

We are both so saddened to hear of your loss. It can be truly heartbreaking to lose a pet, they ARE family. Please post a pic!

We just adopted a dog a few months ago, he is 6, so he came already dialed in. Even tho it has been just a few months I cannot imagine life without him and, having dealt with the loss of our beloved furry friends, and two footed ones too, let me say

The depth of your grief is a measure of the depth of your love.
Dogs love so deeply and so unconditionally it is really hard to describe, but YOU know.

Time will help. Be good to you.
You did a tremendous job taking such good care of him.
You have courage.
May you find peace.

[Edited on 3/26/2017 by WaitinForRain]

 

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 06:04 PM
So sorry for your loss, he'll be in your heart always. There is no shortcut to getting over it. It will hurt for along time; but you do have to live because you are still here, and there are many good dogs who need homes, so when you are able to, you should start looking. You will know, the dog will choose you. Look online for rescue shelters and get one from there. There are a lot of good people who donate their time to go and pick up the dogs from the shelters, and take care of them till they get adopted into a good home. Look for some local organizations, a lot of times they have pictures of the dogs, you may get a feelin' about one of them, but even if you don't, go and meet them anyway. You'll know when you find the one who is waiting for you. You will know.

 

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Dear Rusty and Mrs Rusty:

We are both so saddened to hear of your loss. It can be truly heartbreaking to lose a pet, they ARE family. Please post a pic!

We just adopted a dog a few months ago, he is 6, so he came already dialed in. Even tho it has been just a few months I cannot imagine life without him and, having dealt with the loss of our beloved furry friends, and two footed ones too, let me say

The depth of your grief is a measure of the depth of your love.
Dogs love so deeply and so unconditionally it is really hard to describe, but YOU know.

Time will help. Be good to you.
You did a tremendous job taking such good care of him.
You have courage.
May you find peace.

[Edited on 3/26/2017 by WaitinForRain]



Thank you, wish you many good years with your pup it sounds like he has found a great home.

Will try to put his picture up




 

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So sorry for your loss, he'll be in your heart always. There is no shortcut to getting over it. It will hurt for along time; but you do have to live because you are still here, and there are many good dogs who need homes, so when you are able to, you should start looking. You will know, the dog will choose you. Look online for rescue shelters and get one from there. There are a lot of good people who donate their time to go and pick up the dogs from the shelters, and take care of them till they get adopted into a good home. Look for some local organizations, a lot of times they have pictures of the dogs, you may get a feelin' about one of them, but even if you don't, go and meet them anyway. You'll know when you find the one who is waiting for you. You will know.




Thank you

-you know, it's funny you said that about them choosing us...when we went to look at the pups we were in a kitchen, there were 4 or 5 and he ran over to me first, I think he knocked a broom or something over, caused all this commotion and comes crashing into me, nothing subtle about him and I just remember laughing at all the mayhem he was causing (of course, that turned out to be not so funny as he grew up, what a challenge he was but we were patient and worked through it to train him)

 

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 07:54 PM
I feel for ya Rust, I've had quite a few pets. Your soul and his know the Love you shared. How his eyes would light you when ever you came home. Whenever you didn't feel good and came to you just to be a comfort. We get dogs, cats, other pets knowing that we will most likely out live them and know that one day we may have to do what's right for them and let them go peacefully. It's tough, but we freely give our Love anyway. God Bless you and yours for sharing your Love.


Rainbow Bridge


Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

 

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  posted on 3/26/2017 at 09:26 PM
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I feel for ya Rust, I've had quite a few pets. Your soul and his know the Love you shared. How his eyes would light you when ever you came home. Whenever you didn't feel good and came to you just to be a comfort. We get dogs, cats, other pets knowing that we will most likely out live them and know that one day we may have to do what's right for them and let them go peacefully. It's tough, but we freely give our Love anyway. God Bless you and yours for sharing your Love.


Rainbow Bridge


Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....


That is beautiful, thank you

That scene played out when he was alive so many times, one of his favorite things would be when I would take him out to the woods during or just after a snowstorm, and usually late at night. I'd throw a stick one way and run the other way and try and hide and for him there was nothing more exciting than finding me, which with his nose was ridiculously easy no matter how far I got.

 

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  posted on 3/27/2017 at 01:21 PM
Very sorry you lost your pal, hope you are recovering from the shock.
 

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  posted on 3/27/2017 at 08:47 PM
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Very sorry you lost your pal, hope you are recovering from the shock.


Thank you - I am trying to stay busy, occupied. If I think of him I get the big wave of sadness. Trying to do the best I can with it, remembering the fun he and I had.

 

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Use the photos and videos you have to keep him alive in your memories. It will hurt for a long time, but you will get to the point that smiles and dry eyes replace the sudden heart break and tears.

Our dog, Tipper, he was my best friend in this world. I would tell people he was my favorite 'person' and I would joke with my wife that I get Tipper if we divorced. I said one time that I wanted to die before Tipper because I didn't want to be without him.

But I was prepared for his death, we had time to prepare and even when he was healthy and getting older we made the most of every day. Our dog died 2.5 years ago and we talk about him like he was here yesterday and we laugh and joke and think back and we are happy to have had him.

Some great memories. I know you have those memories. You were a great friend and owner of your dog. Use the memories to not dwell on the emptiness, but to celebrate the joy and happiness he brought you.

I'd love to see a picture as well.

 

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My bride adopted a rescue as a puppy 13.5 years ago when my wife was 28 years old. Kim has been with "Belle" through 4-5 moves, a couple long term relationships, meeting me 5+ years ago, marriage, and now a kid and making my house our home. They are inseparable. Belle is our 14 month old's best friend. My teenagers know my wife as "Ms. Kim & Belle" together. Belle is slowing down and arthritis makes her stiff part of every single day. I can only imagine what it will be like when she passes. Hard to not think of her as always there.

You were both better off and life was richer Rust for being together with your pup. If it wasn't so good, it wouldn't hurt. Best to you.

 

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  posted on 3/28/2017 at 02:32 PM
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If it wasn't so good, it wouldn't hurt. Best to you.


That's what went through my head when our doofy boxer passed - without peaks there can be no valleys. I wouldn't trade the hurt when he passed for all of the amazing times we had when he was around.

Many other have mentioned that they found another pup not long after their canine companions have passed, and we did the same thing. The last thing one can think of when their dog passes is getting another dog, but it's what so many of us find ourselves doing because there are so many amazing, unique dogs out there who need loving homes. Not to replace, mind you, every dog owner thinks their dog is the most amazing and every dog owner is absolutely right, because every dog fits with their unique owner.

2 months after our boxer passed we found ourselves, without actively looking for, an Am Bulldog/pitty mix at a rescue we helped walk dogs at. She had been there for 2 years, even though she was everyone's favorite, so we had to break her out. She's been part of the family ever since, another 80 lbs lap dog.




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  posted on 3/28/2017 at 03:41 PM
Sorry for your loss. It is so tough as animals especially dogs just give us unconditional love.

I often joke that our dog is my favorite child as he never causes the same issues as the kids do.

Easier to love him.

 

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  posted on 3/28/2017 at 10:05 PM
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Use the photos and videos you have to keep him alive in your memories. It will hurt for a long time, but you will get to the point that smiles and dry eyes replace the sudden heart break and tears.

Our dog, Tipper, he was my best friend in this world. I would tell people he was my favorite 'person' and I would joke with my wife that I get Tipper if we divorced. I said one time that I wanted to die before Tipper because I didn't want to be without him.

But I was prepared for his death, we had time to prepare and even when he was healthy and getting older we made the most of every day. Our dog died 2.5 years ago and we talk about him like he was here yesterday and we laugh and joke and think back and we are happy to have had him.

Some great memories. I know you have those memories. You were a great friend and owner of your dog. Use the memories to not dwell on the emptiness, but to celebrate the joy and happiness he brought you.

I'd love to see a picture as well.


Thank you

That was a great story, like you we made the most of every day. Even after he lost use of back legs, I would get him in the wheelchair cart no matter what time or temperature (a certain single digit night a month or so ago stands out) and stay out there with him. We had a routine, we would do circles around the house.

I had a change after he lost use of back legs that I was just going to treat him as I always did, just that now he had a handicap that we had to work around, and we did. Those months in the cart were just as special as the times hiking and running with him in the woods.

 

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Sorry for your loss. It is so tough as animals especially dogs just give us unconditional love.

I often joke that our dog is my favorite child as he never causes the same issues as the kids do.

Easier to love him.



Yeah kids can be a challenge - don't have any, but certainly gave my mother her share of headaches when I was a kid

 

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My bride adopted a rescue as a puppy 13.5 years ago when my wife was 28 years old. Kim has been with "Belle" through 4-5 moves, a couple long term relationships, meeting me 5+ years ago, marriage, and now a kid and making my house our home. They are inseparable. Belle is our 14 month old's best friend. My teenagers know my wife as "Ms. Kim & Belle" together. Belle is slowing down and arthritis makes her stiff part of every single day. I can only imagine what it will be like when she passes. Hard to not think of her as always there.

You were both better off and life was richer Rust for being together with your pup. If it wasn't so good, it wouldn't hurt. Best to you.


Thank you

Another great story. Like others have mentioned, all the good memories hopefully override the pain of the loss. Best to you

 

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er passed we found ourselves, without actively looking for, an Am Bulldog/pitty mix at a rescue we helped walk dogs at. She had been there for 2 years, even though she was everyone's favorite, so we had to break her out. She's been part of the family ever since, another 80 lbs lap dog.




[Edited on 3/28/2017 by porkchopbob]


When it happens, I think that is how it will happen, like it did for you. Like you weren't looking but it just seemed right.

 

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Sincere thank you to everyone that replied - beautiful stories of you and your pets, and I've gotten some strength from reading all these messages, they are very reassuring and more than anything are reminding me to focus on the 13 great years more than the last two days before we lost him.

How do I put a picture up? Trying to figure it out (I guess the 17 years I worked in the IT field isn't helping me here ...)





 

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Have had to go through this many, many times myself, too painful to recollect all the times.

One thing our vet at the time said to me while struggling with "the decision" on one of our elderly dogs, she said "our dogs look to us to make the best decisions for them, they can't and don't want to make that decision, they look to us to do it for them."

At the time it made perfect sense.

Sorry for your loss.

 

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After seeing how many people unhappily live their final years semi incapacitated in nursing homes & such
....vs how we give our pets the love & respect they so deserve, by, as you said, making the decision for them......
-- nuzzled right up to her, I saw how my dog passed away in perfect peace after being administered the shot by the vet some years ago -- No Wallball, No Hikes, No Retrieving, no thanks -- it was written all over her

Am very sorry for your loss Rust1 -- what a dog your shep sounds like he was


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